Bibliography – Section Three: General Bereavement

Suicide

DYING TO BE FREE by Beverly Cobain and Jean Larch
Through an honest personal account, along with tender recollections from other suicide survivors, this book provides powerful insight into the confusion, fear and guilt that family members experience from the suicide of a loved one.

NO TIME TO SAY GOODBYE by Carla Fine
Comprehensive and rich in exposition, Fine draws on her own experience and those of many other survivors. She brings suicide survival into the light, speaking frankly and with compassion about the overwhelming feelings of confusion, guilt, shame, anger and loneliness that are shared by all survivors.

AFTERSHOCK by David Cox and Candy Arrington
A Christian-based book, written specifically to survivors of suicide, but also for ministers, those in intervention, and anyone who struggles with what to say to those who have experienced a devastating life crisis.

Sibling Loss

SIBLING GRIEF: HEALING AFTER THE DEATH OF A SISTER OR BROTHER by P. Gill White, Ph.D.
The author draws on both clinical and personal experience, along with those of hundreds of bereaved siblings, to explain the healing tasks unique to sibling grief.

HEALING THE ADULT SIBLING’S GRIEVING HEART by Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D.
Practical, action-oriented tips for embracing your grief following the death of a sibling.

SURVIVING THE DEATH OF A SIBLING by T.J. Wray
A personal account of the author’s brother, interspersed with the stories of other sibling grievers. Filled with helpful, proactive steps designed to help surviving siblings.

LETTERS TO SARA: THE AGONY OF ADULT SIBLING LOSS by Anne McCurry
A collection of letters written by the author to her sister Sara following her death at age 54.

Death of a Parent

THE ORPHANED ADULT: UNDERSTANDING AND COPING WITH GRIEF AND CHANGES AFTER THE DEATH OF OUR PARENTS by Alexander Levy
Understanding & coping after death of parents. The author shares his own experience and interjects the stories of others.

WHEN PARENTS DIE by Edward Myers
Myers offers sensible, compassionate advice to those coping with the death of a parent. He offers suggestions on how to cope with and overcome shock, depression and guilt. Practical matters, such as dealing with funerals and estates are also discussed.

Masculine Grief

MEN & GRIEF: A GUIDE FOR MEN SURVIVING THE DEATH OF A LOVED ONE by Carol Staudacher
This book is both a guide for men surviving the death of a loved one and a resource for caregivers and mental health professionals. Staudacher’s work helps free men from the sense of isolating uniqueness; offering awareness, fresh insights and encouragement to men who need to grieve. The author concludes: “The reason for processing grief is not to weaken life, but to strengthen it.”

SWALLOWED BY A SNAKE: THE GIFT OF THE MASCULINE SIDE OF HEALING by Thomas R. Golden
Golden’s blend of folklore, cross-cultural analysis, and clinical advice is meant to be a map and a guide through the experience of loss into a place of healing and transformation. The material presents a fresh look into the uniqueness of a man’s grief in a way that both men and women will find helpful.

WHEN A MAN FACES GRIEF/A MAN YOU KNOW IS GRIEVING by Thomas R. Golden and James E. Miller
This small book of 12 practical ideas is written as a double book. One half directly addresses a man, focusing on the masculine side of healing from loss. The other half, A Man You Know is Grieving, offers 12 practical ideas for friends and family of the grieving man. Miller is a grief counselor, educator, author and ordained minister. Golden, an internationally known speaker is a grief educator, author and counselor.

FATHERLOSS: HOW SONS OF ALL AGES COME TO TERMS WITH THE DEATHS OF THEIR DADS by Neil Chethik
How sons of all ages come to terms with the deaths of their dads.

Gay and Lesbian Grief

GAY WIDOWERS: LIFE AFTER DEATH OF A PARTNER by Michael Shernoff, MSW
Offers bereaved men –in a society where the mourning process is generally a heterosexual event,-a practical and clinical overview of the issues relevant, and unique to the mourning process.

LESBIAN WIDOWS: INVISIBLE GRIEF by Vicky Whipple
Thoughtful perspectives on the grieving process for lesbians. 25 women share their very personal story.

Widows and Widowers

SURVIVING WIDOWHOOD by Esther Goshen-Gottstein
The author explores her experiences of pain, loneliness and fear after the death of her husband, and integrates her personal perspective with her professional reflections as a clinical psychologist.

WIDOW TO WIDOW: THOUGHTFUL, PRACTICAL IDEAS FOR REBUILING YOUR LIFE by Genevieve Davis Ginsburg, M.S.
Writing from her own experience as a widow, author and therapist, Ginsburg is frankly honest as she dispels the myths and disputes the rules; encouraging each widow to being her new life in her own way and time.

WIDOWS WEAR STILETTOS: A PRACTICAL AND EMOTIONAL GUIDE FOR THE YOUNG WIDOW by Carole Brody Fleet with Syd Harriet, Ph.D., Psy.D.
A practical and emotional guide for the young widow.

THE LIGHT AT THE END OF THE TUNNEL: COMING BACK TO LIFE AFTER A SPOUSE DIES by Mary Ward Menke
Straight from the heart stories told from surviving spouses; they describe the minutiae of tragedy and the greater hope of life beyond death. For the newly bereaved and for those who care about them.

HEALING A SPOUSE’S GRIEVING HEART by Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D.
Offers 100 practical here-and-now suggestions for helping widows and widowers mourn well so they can go on to live well and love well again.

WAKING UP ALONE: GRIEF & HEALING by Julie K. Cicero, MSW
Examines the death of your companion and the many ways that this death affects you. Grief and anxiety, raising children following the death of a parent, grief support, spirituality, holidays and celebrations, and the different ways in which men experience grief are also addressed.

Traumatic Grief

NO ONE SHOULD SEE WHAT I HAVE SEEN a Centering Corporation Resource
Written for those who experienced a terrifying or horrible tragedy; relates stories from survivors of 9-11.

JUST US: HOMICIDAL LOSS AND GRIEF by Wanda Henry-Jenkins
A book for anyone who has experienced a homicidal loss of a loved one.

JUST US: A GUIDED WORKBOOK FOR COPING WITH HOMICIDAL LOSS AND GRIEF by Wanda Henry-Jenkins
A companion workbook to the Just Us book.

WHO LIVES HAPPILY EVER AFTER? : A HANDBOOK FOR FAMILIES WHOSE CHILD HAS DIED VIOLENTLY by Sharon Turnbull
The author is an internationally recognized bereavement specialist who researches, writes, consults and lectures in areas related to death, loss and grief.

WHAT TO DO WHEN THE POLICE LEAVE: A GUIDE TO THE FIRST DAYS OF TRAUMATIC LOSS by Bill Jenkins
The author shares expert advice, lists helpful resources, demystifies legal and medical jargon, and affirms hope in the midst of tragedy.

A GRIEF LIKE NO OTHER: SURVING THE VIOLENT DEATH OF SOMEONE YOU LOVE BY Kathleen O’Hara, MA
Written by a therapist who has experienced first-hand the murder of her son, this book describes a seven-stage plan to cope with the circumstances following a traumatic loss.

HEALING YOUR TRAUMATIZED HEART by Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D.
Offers 100 practical ideas to help you through our traumatic loss, and gives practical, proactive suggestions for moving beyond the trauma and embracing your grief.

LIVING WITH GRIEF AFTER SUDDEN LOSS edited by Kenneth J. Doka, Ph.D.
Each chapter discusses a type of traumatic loss, and is written by professionals in their respective fields.

General Bereavement

THE JOURNEY THROUGH GRIEF by Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D.
Reconciliation is an appropriate term for what occurs as the mourner works to integrate their new reality without the presence of their loved one.

LIVING IN THE SHADOW OF THE GHOSTS OF GRIEF by Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D.
Reconcile old losses and open the door to infinite joy and love.

WOMEN IN MOURNING by Jean Clayton
Looking at the many types of grief women experience-from fetal death to widowhood to disability to divorce. Looking at feelings that come with all kinds of grief.

UNDERSTANDING YOUR GRIEF: TEN ESSENTIAL TOUCHSTONES FOR FINDING HOPE AND HEALING YOUR HEART by Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph. D.
The ten touchstones are essential physical, emotional, cognitive, social and spiritual action for you to take to help yourself heal.

THIS THING CALLED GRIEF: NEW UNDERSTANDINGS OF LOSS by Thomas M. Ellis
A unique, hopeful, and healing collection of actual stories of loss, plus tools that can help to transform grief.

AMBIGUOUS LOSS: LEARNING TO LIVE WITH UNRESOLVED GRIEF by Pauline Boss
Drawing on her research and clinical experience, Boss suggests strategies that can cushion the pain and offers heartening narratives of those who cope with ambiguous losses and manage to move on.

GRIEFKEEPING: LEARNING HOW LONG GRIEF LASTS by Harold Ivan Smith
Stories from presidents, celebrities, and other American luminaries. It serves to connect the griever’s present experience with the past experiences of others.

GRIEVERS ASK: ANSWERS TO QUESTIONS ABOUT DEATH AND LOSS by Harold Ivan Smith
The author has compiled more than 150 common questions, explores the emotions behind them, and provides clear and forthright responses.

GRIEVING THE DEATH OF A FRIEND by Harold Ivan Smith
The death of a friend is one of the most significant but unrecognized experiences of grief in American culture. This book guides the reader to move with rather than against the natural grief process.

HOW TO GO ON LIVING WHEN SOMEONE YOU LOVE DIES by Therese A. Rando, Ph.D.
A comprehensive, insightful, and helpful volume on loss and survival. There is no right or wrong way to grieve; each person’s response will be different. This book will lead you gently through the painful but necessary process of grieving.

THE COURAGE TO GRIEVE: CREATIVE LIVING, RECOVERY & GROWTH THROUGH GRIEF by Judy Tatelbaum
A tribute to the resiliency of the human spirit, Tatelbaum reminds us that grief is a wound that needs attention in order to heal. She encourages the read to work through grief by facing feelings openly and honestly, expressing or releasing feelings fully, and tolerating and accepting feelings for however long it takes to heal.

TRANSCENDING LOSS: UNDERSTANDING THE LIFELONG IMPACT OF GRIEF AND HOW TO MAKE IT MEANINGFUL by Ashley Davis Prend, A.C.S.W.
This book deals with the ongoing impact of grief, and how it changes through the years. Through personal stories, the author shows that over time, you can learn to transcend loss even in spite of the pain.

A GUIDE FOR THE BEREAVED SURVIVOR by Robert Baugher, Ph.D. and Marc Calija
A list of reactions, suggestions and steps for coping with grief.

SHELTERING THOUGHTS by Sharon Gilchrest O’Neill, ED.S
The author, a Marriage & Family Therapist, offers words of understanding and comfort. From poetry to inspirational writing, this book is intended to offer courage and hope.

LIVING WITH GRIEF: WHO WE ARE, HOW WE GRIEVE edited by Kenneth J. Doka and Joyce D. Davidson
This book helps us to understand grief for what it is: not a process that makes all individuals the same, but rather one that is as complex and multi-faceted as the individuals who experience it.

LIVING WITH GRIEF: AT WORK, AT SCHOOL, AT WORSHIP edited by Joyce D. Davidson and Kenneth J. Doka
Our grief spills over, affecting all dimensions of our life. We grieve in all the places we inhabit. The ways that others respond to, acknowledge and support that grief can either complicate or facilitate the grieving process.

THE HEALING JOURNEY THROUGH GRIEF: YOUR JOURNAL FOR REFLECTION AND RECOVERY by Phil Rich, EdD, MSW
Written by a professional counselor, this book supplies you with important information about grief and the grieving process, and is designed to help you work through the painful emotions, thoughts and memories that surface when you have lost a loved one.

GRIEF: CLIMB TOWARD UNDERSTANDING by Phyllis Davies
Written after her thirteen-year-old son was tragically killed, this reassuring story in crisp verse vignettes reflects the authors struggle and determination to find healing in her grief. Also includes practical information and checklists on what to do when a death occurs.

ANGEL CATCHER, A JOURNAL OF LOSS AND REMEMBRANCE by Kathy and Amy Eldon
The authors suggest that you “capture angels” when you fill a book with pictures, stories, letters, whatever will remind you of your loved one who died. This journal is a companion that provides the backdrop and opportunity to capture memories and the essence of the person who is no longer with you.

Spanish Titles

AFLICCIÓN: QUÉ ES Y QUÉ PUEDES HACER by A Centering Corporation

CÓMO COMPRENDER Y APOYAR A UN NÍ O ADOLESCENTE ENFRENTANDO A UNA MUERTE by Jane Bradley Cameron
Una guÍa para los padres y guardianes

CUANDO ALGUIEN MUY ESPECIAL MUERE by Marge Heegaard
Los Niños pueden aprender a enfrentar la adversided

Curando El Pesar by A Centering Corporation